Grandma (my mother-in-law) is no longer with us, but we cannot be sad. She had a long life, very rewarding. She was a beautiful woman, very smart, very generous. She wanted to join her husband Grandpa. So, we cannot be selfish, and we must understand, that was her wish. In memory of her, since I was in Brunei at the time of the news, I bought lilies, rented a long boat, and went down the river towards the China Sea. As we traveled, I tossed one lily at a time, thinking of her.